Hello, my friends. It's been a hard week: our dear Karen is not doing well, so the core group of Winesday Women gathered to support her with our love and sisterhood, possibly for the last time.
|Clockwise from me: Yvonne, Vero, Karen, Caro and Cat|
We all expanded our COVID bubbles for her and Nick - there haven't been any cases in Victoria for a month, and there's no way I'm not going to be there for and with my best friends.
It was a mixed day, and my outfit shows it.
I cried all my make-up off - I did skip the mascara, though.
- Vest - Religion, consignment; purchased here for $44.79
- T-shirt - Ted Baker, consignment; first seen here in April 2019 with an iridescent skirt
- Culottes - Topshop, thrifted; last worn here in January for the Year of the Rat
- Shoes - Sam Edelman, thrifted; last seen here to visit Mom in April, with leopard trousers
I'm not feeling this tee. It'll go into the "stuff I sleep in" collection where I will whittle it down to pennies per wear.
Without the vest.
- Cuff - thrifted
- Crystal cuff - Swarovski, consignment, gift from L
- Silver/crystal ring - Soul Flower
- Crystal ring - Uffizi Gallery gift shop, Florence, Italy
- Ear-balls - Swarovski, consignment
In the face of death, everything else feels very insignificant.
The sun shines.
Life continues. The world turns.
We hung out with Karen for a couple of hours. It was a mix of crying and laughing and just being there with her. Every moment is precious.
Thanks to Rob for taking these pictures of us. I'm a weepy person, so I look on the verge of bawling at all times.
Today, I had a haircut after work, so I wanted to look fabulous for Sofia. I may have cried into my mask, sorry, honey. I'll show off my haircut in the next post, but I did the same "long bob, chunky layers and curtain bangs/fringe" as I did last time I got it cut, back here in February (only my bangs are longer now).
I really loved all the colours in this and the pattern mix.
- Jacket - Marc Cain, consignment; purchased here for $45.00
- Blouse - Talbots, thrifted; last seen here in December 2019, layered under a sweater
- Skirt - Banana Republic, consignment; last worn here in August 2019 with more navy and white and my Darth Sheila duster
- Shoes - Big Presence Earhart, Fluevog; last seen here in May with copper and a Miami print
More Clothing As Armour - expect a bit of that in the coming weeks, for sure. I hope you'll bear with me as we go through our grieving for Karen - we've been
friends family for 25 years, so there's a lot of love there.
My picnic plaid skirt is a favourite - it is navy blue and white check. It's a stretchy cotton.
I'd been waffling over this pink blouse as I hated the whole outfit the last time I wore it, but the colour was perfect with the jacket.
My rings are like comfort food. One from when L and I were dating, one that my Winesday Women "bought" me in Italy for my birthday, and my Dad's ring.
- Earrings - vintage market
- Silver/sodalite ring - Scotland, 1996
- Silver/amethyst ring - Frances Jewelers, c. 1965, Dad's
- Crystal ring - Uffizi Gallery gift shop, Florence, Italy
Today's Flashback is these Fluevog shoes. They are from the Big Presence family, same as my yellow and orange waxed canvas Desmond (after Norma I'm-ready-for-my-close-up from "Sunset Boulevard") pumps, Flashback'ed here and here; these are called the Earhart (after Amelia the aviatrix)
These are a really comfortable heel height for me, and I know what size I am (9.5) in this family, so I can buy another pair of Big Presence if I see a pair online that grabs me. I am also a sucker for that sweet pointy toe - I was a teen in the 80s, what can I say?
I bought these in the after-Christmas sale at our local Fluevog store in 2017, so I've had them for 2.5 years. I paid $169.99 for them here on the "last chance" sale wall, and spent gift cards on them. I love getting gift cards!
I first wore them in January 2018 for a big corporate event.
I often pick out the orange for matchy purposes, like here in February 2018.
Mixed with warm autumnal shades in April 2018.
This is one of my favourite outfits with them - although, I do like 95% of my outfits, which is as it should be.
Pulling out a bit of orange in this vintage Etro dress - there's some purple in that pattern too.
This was also in July 2018, and you may remember this from the dress' own Flashback.
I'm a rainbow for Pride Week!
I keep these shoes out all year round - here they are in October 2018 with a blouse that has bits of pink and orange in its floral pattern.
I love that leather dress - I've had it for over 5 years. The belt is Christian Dior (KLASSY).
With the same blouse ruffling out the front of my soft pink blazer in January 2019.
So well, I paired them again here in March 2019. I love pink and yellow together.
Another top with a pattern that has bits of pink and orange in it. It's surprising how many patterns these shoes go with!
Pink and orange matchiness here in September 2019.
And that brings us back to May, when I wore the shoes with copper and this annoying shirt that is now in the giveaway pile. I'll be pinking up my hair like this again very soon.
Including today's outfit, I've worn these shoes 13 times, bringing them down to just over $13.00 per wear. They are still looking really good, so I can certainly see many more years of outfits with them!
And now, I need to chill out.
Yes, exactly like that.
You, Karen and her partner have been in my thoughts all week, Sheila. Those photos of you and the Winesday Women are absolutely wonderful, the love between you is palpable and despite her being so ill, Karen looks beautiful, it must be such a comfort to know how much she is loved.ReplyDelete
I like those blue trousers on you a lot and the pattern-mixed outfit really is a work of art, who knew gingham and tweed could look so perfect together?
When you're dealing with grief everything else feels so insignificent. Cuddle Vizzini (and L)and be kind to yourself, I wish I could be there to give you an almighty great hug. xxx
Thank you so much, Vix. It's been a really rough time for all of us. We love her so much.Delete
Thanks, but the blue trousers are done - I like the trend, but not on me. I loved the tweedy outfit much more.
It does...but life goes on. Outfits need to be made and blogged, cats need to be cuddled, and such good advice: being kind to myself. I am trying. Hugs to you, my dear friend.
Dear Sheila, sending thoughts, prayers and love to you, Karen and your circle of friends. 💚ReplyDelete
Thank you so much, Susan. I really appreciate that. *hug*Delete
Sending a big virtual hug in this difficult time. I am so glad you were able to expand your bubble to allow this awesome group of women to come together for this poignant reunion. Your faithful readers are with you, and will understand if you need to take a wee break when the grieving is hardest.ReplyDelete
Thanks so much, Linda. We would do anything for each other, and since Victoria/the Island have been relatively untouched, we made this calculated risk.Delete
I actually find blogging restful and soothing. It helps things feel normal to me. Thank you for being here.
Oh my it’s incredibly difficult when our friends or family are seriously ill. Gathering together is the best way to honour and support them and each other.ReplyDelete
Look forward to seeing your new hairstyle. I am going next week!
Take care Sheila
Lesley, thank you - it's been just awful, and has all happened so quickly (less thank 3 months). We've been trying to stay connected as much as we can.Delete
It felt so good to get the chop again! Now, I just need to colour it. :)
Thank you, hon. *hug*
So sad that Karen is doing so poorly. I know what you are going through. As you might know I lost my best friend in March to cancer. Lots and lots of tears. Very good that you all went up to see her.ReplyDelete
As for the outfits (it does seem insignificent but still...) you have such a good eye for colours and shapes. I would not have come up with these shoes in most of your outfit combinations, but they work really well.
PS Wishing you strength.
Thank you, Greetje. I remembered about your friend's death recently. It's very hard, and comes in waves. I'm fine one moment and then I remember and the tears come.Delete
Thank you! I really love the shoes and am surprised at how much they go with.
Hugs to you, my friend.
Hugs. So hard to say goodbye.ReplyDelete
Thank you, Ann. It really is.Delete
Those photos of your group of friends surrounding Karen choked me up. It's so good that you extended your bubbles to go and see her. That must have been so bittersweet. What a brave woman she is. I'm so with you on T-shirts, and I'm hearing you on those cropped trousers as well. It's at times like these that it seems strange that life in general goes on and that nature seems unaware that something is not right. I remember when my Dad was dying and in hospital and everything felt so bleak while outside the sun was shining. It was the height of Summer and it felt unreal. How lovely that you were able to go for a haircut, and I definitely love the outfit you wore for the occasion. It's a shame they skipped the pockets on that jacket, though! I loved seeing the flashback featuring those drool-worthy shoes. And of course, we'll bear with you. Do take your time and take good care of yourself. And give that man (and cat) of course a good cuddle! Sending lots of hugs xxxReplyDelete
I know, it's hard for me to look at them. I'll be going back through my photos (real and digital) and will be doing something like a retrospective for Karen in the near future. But right now, it just kills me to think of her gone.Delete
Agreed, I'm very meh on t-shirts, and although I like the trend of cropped wide-legged trousers, these are not for me. Yes, life goes on...and it sounds brutal and uncaring, but I can't just focus on the bad; I need the normalcy of clothes and this blog, and all of you out there.
I loved that outfit, and I'm so happy to have my hair cut!
Thanks, Ann. *hug* to you.
Thinking of you and your friend Karen. Cancer is such a cruel disease. Sending you lots of love and hugs. Cry as much as you need, cuddle your kitty, hug L. and envelope yourself in the circle of love that you share with you Winesday friends.ReplyDelete
Thank you so much, Sandra. Cancer is just...horrible. I can't believe how quickly this has all happened. I'm being kind to myself, and giving love and seeing friends, and asking for help when I need it.Delete
How very very sad. I feel so for you because I know how it feels to lose a friend. It's so surreal. I'm glad you all got the chance to be with her.ReplyDelete
I know you've gone through this too, Nancy, thank you. It's just an awful thing. This is the first of our friends to die, and it really makes you look at your own mortality.Delete
So so sorry for all your pain. Goodbyes are so impossible. Good that you all could visit her.ReplyDelete
Thanks, Juliana. All of us being together is the best gift we could have given Karen and ourselves.Delete
When I look at the picture of Karen and her friends I see bravery and love in every face. I wish you all peace.ReplyDelete
Your hair looks great - I hope the process of visiting the salon wasn't too nerve wracking.
I am amazed at how versatile your orange/lilac shoes are. I would never have imagined they would pair so well with so many things - I'm kind of blown away.
We're all dealing with it differently, but yes, all trying very hard to be brave, Nana. Thank you, my dear.Delete
Nope, all good. I wore a mask, Sofia wore a mask, we followed all the rules. I'm so happy to have it cut!
I know, I didn't think I'd wear them that much, but I love them.
You have got so much wear out of those shoes - they are really versatile for you! :) I'm so sorry to read about your friend but it's so nice you have those photos and you have been able to gather safely together! Time is so precious and I think we have all noticed that recently but you all must be feeling it so heavily. Thinking of you!ReplyDelete
I know, Mica, and they are still going strong! I'm impressed with their versatility.Delete
Thank you, my dear friend. I'm so grateful that we had this time with Karen. Our friendship has been such a gift. Hugs to you.
Sometimes I think the long goodbye is harder than the sudden parting. SO glad you and your "framily" could be together, sounds like you've assembled a fantastic crew to help you get through. Sending the very best vibes to you and your friends.ReplyDelete
I agree, Ashley, but really, there is no good way. I'm so grateful that we were able to see her and be together, likely this last time. Thank you so much.Delete
That photo of You with Karen and your friends is lovely. Sending hugs, Sheila.ReplyDelete
Thank you so much, Cynthia. Hugs to you.Delete
sheila, i am heartbroken for your friend...it touched me...and i am tearing up...my thoughts with her, her family and youReplyDelete
Thank you, Eva. We are all grieving here. I appreciate your kind thoughts. *hug*Delete
What a difficult time for you all. Words seem so inadequate. My heart goes out to you, to her and her family and friends.ReplyDelete
These shoes are in my top five favourites of yours. I do like the unusual colour combination. They cause me to have severe shoe envy.
Sending you big hugs xxx
Thanks, dear Anna. It has been so hard on all of us to watch our dear Karen fade away.Delete
I love them too - they're so fun!
Hugs to you.
Sheila, if this is of any help for you to ease your mind, the little flowers groing in the pavement crack are called Heartsease. From a follower from downunder. XXXXX Blessing to you all. Linda.ReplyDelete
Oh, thank you so much for that info - I just thought they were small pansies. I love that. Hugs to you, Linda.Delete
Oh Shiela, you've brought a tear to my eye. That must be so hard saying goodbye to a dear friend. I love how your sisterhood gathered around her for some love and laughter. What a PRECIOUS group of friends you have. Take care, I will be thinking of you and Karen. XReplyDelete
It's been really, really horrible, Jess. I would not wish this on anyone. Thank you. *hug*Delete
You can tell you are on on the verge of tears in the first photo, which caused me to tear up as well. Saying goodbye to someone you love is heartbreaking, but I am glad you and your friends have been able to spend time with her and support each other during this sad time. Vix is right, this is a time for you to be gentle with yourself and accept support from those around you, including Vizzini. Sending a virtual hug.ReplyDelete
I'm a crier, for sure. It has been so hard, coming to terms with this, Shelley. I'm so happy we've had each other to help us through this. Thank you, my dear. Hug!Delete
There is so much love on that first photograph. One can see how close you all are. It is wonderful you were able to get together with Karen. Every moment is precious but it often takes an illness to make us realize that.ReplyDelete
We are so grateful that we had this time, especially now that her time has come. These wonderful people are my family. It is a real wake-up call when we lose someone - our time is short, make the most of it.Delete
I am sorry to hear about Karen, it's marvelous you are all there for her.ReplyDelete
What a great group of friends/family you have, she is getting all of this love and support from you ladies, this is priceless.
It was such a wonderful coming-together, Lorena. I'm so eternally grateful that we had this day to spend with her.Delete